Finding HOPE in the midst of crisis…

The current crisis has shown us how much we live our lives by assumptions.

In the past, we would wake up in the morning and assume that life would be much as it was the day before.

We have assumed our good health, our daily interactions with loved ones, co-workers, friends and the business-as-usual routine in our job and community.

Our world of assumptions has been shattered and we are experiencing the death of everything we have known to be true.

In a moment, everything has changed.

All sorts of emotions have been experienced: numbness, disbelief, denial, outrage, confusion, emptiness, depression, guilt, fear, abandonment and isolation.

These emotions have been displayed through behaviours such as panic-buying and hoarding, physical altercations in supermarkets, the deliberate disregard for physical isolation guidelines and the running around trying to keep a business together.

We have all been affected in some way.

We are seeing loss of employment, loss of business, loss of dreams, loss of physical connection, loss of loved ones, loss of security and certainty.

Who do we become in the midst of our own uncertainty?

Do we withdraw and disconnect hoping it will all go away?

As a business leader or owner there is a very real risk that there will be nothing left when we finally do decide to emerge from the covers.

When we choose to accept that we don’t have to have all the answers that is when we can take action.

We are all experiencing loss at some level and are grieving that.

Having got over the initial shock, many will now start to feel anger and frustration as the reality of the situation sets in.

This is a natural part of the grief reaction and is partly as a result of feeling out of control.

We can choose to stay in that state and become disconnected from the very essence of who we are or we can tune into our thoughts and feelings.

Disciplines and practices can be implemented that will replace those thoughts and feelings with ones that will motivate us, give us hope and purpose.

Instead of asking “why did it happen?” we can ask “what do I do now?”, choosing to grow through the pain of our loss.

Grief is a natural, healthy, self-corrective process.

It is an ongoing, continuous, highly fluid process where we can separate from someone or something that we have lost.

Grief comes in waves and there will be different emotions felt as we move through the process.

Each of us respond differently to grief.

It varies according to our temperament, background, emotional and physical health, age, faith and past losses.

It is possible for a current loss to trigger unresolved losses from the past.

Intense grief may produce physical symptoms such as fatigue, shortness of breath, dizziness, irritability and restlessness, insomnia and inability to organise daily activities.

There may be feelings of self-blame, a preoccupation with the image of what has been lost – job, business or loved one, a sense of guilt arising from feelings of not having done enough to prevent the outcome.

No matter the emotion, it is healthier to express it than try and repress it.

Repression is the means by which intolerable memories are kept out of the consciousness.

The risk is that this will manifest physically as disease.

Expressing the emotion through crying is healthy – tears are a way of cleansing inner wounds.

As we grieve, we will review memories of what has been lost and only gradually confront each one with the realisation that it no longer corresponds to something real.

We need to face the pain so that it can heal.

As we move through this process, we will break the emotional ties with what has been lost and gradually reinvest attachment and emotional energy to a new reality.

Taking the time to reflect, put our priorities in their proper perspective and clarify our values, influences the way in which we move forward.

Giving ourselves space allows an occasion for growth, to connect with our higher self and chart a new course to even greater possibility than we ever dreamed possible.

Integrating new disciplines and practices into our daily routine supports that growth and invites greater creativity into our thoughts.

Then, when we pause to reflect, we can look back with gratitude, that what seemed to be a disaster has now become perfect and unique.

 

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SHINE YOUR LIGHT TODAY….

Have you ever stopped what you were doing and paused to reflect?

In that moment you considered your environment, the condition of your life, and realised it is not where you want to be

Deep inside of you there is a knowing that you are capable of so much more

But you’ve neglected to nurture that knowing

You’ve been busy with life

Doing all the right things that you thought were expected of you

Finishing school

Going to university

Getting a job

Getting married

Starting a family

Buying a house

You realise that you’ve given over control to your external environment

You’ve been reacting to the circumstances around you

Your decisions have been dictated by your perception of what you thought others might think of you

You have allowed them to limit your potential

When you do stop long enough, you feel a restlessness inside of you

You start to wonder….

You ask yourself…what if?

Love yourself enough to choose to recognise the GREATNESS that is within you

You can take control

You can create the destiny of your dreams

There is a knowing inside of you that wants you to be all that you can be

Take a moment to breathe

What are the negative emotions that have held you back?

What is the story that you’ve been telling yourself when you feel that way?

Allow yourself to recognise the pattern of your behaviour

Name it out loud

Then let it go

Allow the knowing that is within you to take it from you

To release you from the chains that keep you connected to those negative emotions and thoughts

What would it feel like to be living in your greatness?

What would if feel like to experience the joy of being connected to everyone and everything around you?

What would it feel like to experience joy and happiness in all that you do?

Allow that feeling to dwell deep in every fibre of your being

Become the designer of a new future

Co-create with the power that is within you

Be invincible

Build into your daily habits the renewing of your mind

Understand that your feelings drive your thoughts, and then your thoughts drive your feelings

Be in control

Recognise the limiting thought patterns and behaviours that have held you back

Replace them with a consciousness that you are connected to a higher power

Be empowered to believe that you are called to greatness

The world needs YOU to stand out and shine today

Be greater than your circumstance, be greater than the condition in your life

Your experiences in life, your knowledge, your skills bring a uniqueness to the world

There is no-one else like YOU

Choose to shine your light in the world

Be the hope and love that the world needs right now

Stand with me today, align with your inner knowing and join with the collective consciousness to create a new destiny.

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Say “YES” to Opportunity…

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Saying ‘YES’ to opportunity started me on a journey of discovery – about myself and my purpose in life.

In late 2017, I was a co-author to the anthology “I said YES” where I shared the exhilaration of going against the expected norm and doing something for myself. How taking one step revived in me my desire to be a person of influence – someone who could share knowledge and experience.

Continuing to step into opportunity brings with it challenges.

Along side each period of growth, there has been also been pain.

As each door opened, to be that person to successfully step through, I realised there was a part of me that I needed to let go.

There were thought patterns that I had developed over many years that no longer served me.

They had come from belief systems that I had never questioned or observed as to what had created that belief system in the first place.

Integrating the practice of meditation into my life has been incredibly powerful.

It has given me the opportunity to see who I truly am.

Believe me though, it is not an easy upward trajectory.

Life still gets in the way and can side-swipe me.

The good thing is….I’m more in control.

I’ve come to understand the me that I no longer want to be and have the tools to change.

Practicing the daily renewal of my mind has become an imperative.

This process has also instilled in me courage, resilience and trust.

Trust, that we are all connected to a higher being and each have our own unique purpose.

It is this sense of connectedness which draws me forward, seeking to grow in awareness and understanding of the power that resides within each of us.

This power is like a muscle. It needs to be used consistently to strengthen.

As it strengthens, it replaces those thought patterns that were consistently sabotaging my efforts.

The most wonderful thing is that I get to be the designer of my destiny.

But it does take discipline.

For a long time my understanding of self-care centred around taking ‘time out’, having a massage, taking a walk or something similar.

More recently, I was challenged to consider self-care as also been a time to be focused, to exercise discipline in completing the one thing that was going to help me move forward in that moment.

I am grateful for that insight.

For in the discipline of work that is aligned to my purpose, I have found a freedom and a passion that continues to ignite that power within.

What would it mean for you today to say ‘YES’ to opportunity?

To be willing to be vulnerable, to discover more of your true self?

To be inspired to take up a new challenge, find new courage?

I would love to hear your thoughts…..

You can find me at

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HOW TO BE STRATEGIC, SUCCESSFUL & SANE…

Starting a new year, a new decade even, may prompt questions such as…

What have I achieved?

Where am I headed?

If there is no clarity in the answers, there may be a realisation that things have remained status quo.

When reflecting on the time in question, seeing that all the time has been spent just getting the day to day completed, there may be a sense of frustration. Maybe there’s been no growth, no expansion of ideas, no movement forward to achieving your original vision.

You may even feel like you’ve become stuck on the hamster wheel. Doing the same routine day in, day out.

How do you address this?

Building strategy into your business or your personal life is more than an annual event.

It will be far more effective when it becomes a habit.

Being strategic needs to come from a place of stepping back from the day to day. It can’t be done when you are caught up in the thick of the everyday…that is being REACTIVE!!

It is ESSENTIAL that you block out quiet time.

This may seem counter intuitive however, being busy isn’t necessarily going to move you forward. You are most likely spending time on things that really aren’t that important and may even be better done by someone else.

It is in that quiet time that we can allow ourselves to become the observer.

Take that helicopter view.

Have a pen and paper handy so that you can jot down your thoughts.

Breathe deeply.

Be aware of your posture.

If your shoulders are up toward your head, you are most likely carrying tension and stress.

Relax them. Open your chest out. Breathe deeply.

This practice has a deep physiological effect within your body.  It allows oxygen to flow to your brain and to the cells within your muscles.

From this space you become effective in your thought processes.

At a personal level, begin noticing how you feel in certain situations – both positive and negative.

Observe what is driving that reaction.

If it is negative, ask yourself, who do I need to become to react differently?

If it is positive, the question may be, who do you need to become to enhance that behaviour?

There may be practices that need to be let go.

Responding to any of these changes requires courage.

You have that within you.

It resides deep within you. You will be able to tap into that in the stillness of your being.

Start by allocating 15 – 30 minutes a few times a week into your schedule.

Gradually, you will find when this works best for you.

I have found that the more I practice this, the more that it has become a state of being.

I am becoming change every day.

Within your business one area that you may begin to review are your sales calls.

Listen carefully to the reasons for objections or not wanting your products/services.

Are they pointing to opportunities to improve systems, meet a need, address some learning in your social media content, grow your business, collaborate with another service provider in a joint venture, or cross promote with a partner?

What about your employees?

Are they contributing in all ways possible?

Identify their strengths and give them space to play. They may still do their core duties and consecutively become part of a think tank/new ideas group.

Be open to unexpected value.

Do you feel assured enough within yourself to be accepting of these unexpected attributes from others, to not feel threatened?

People want you to succeed, especially when they recognise that your success is better for them.

This comes when individuals recognise their own strengths and limitations but also recognise the synergy that comes from working together.

Be the observer. Notice the situations in which people flourish or struggle. Decipher if this is a system/process issue, a learning/development opportunity or a combination.

Consistently allowing yourself time and space to be still, to change your state of being, will bring a strategic awareness into your personal and business life that delivers unprecedented outcomes.

If you would like help implementing these changes into your personal life or your business please reach out to me via email – sue@suemathieson.com.au or mobile – +61417387170

I am available for individual coaching or group workshops.

LIFE GETTING IN THE WAY?

We all want to feel safe and secure

Owning our own home, having that roof over our head, gives not only a sense of physical stability but also financial

Often though, owning our own home remains a dream with life seeming to consistently get in the way…

There’s a school excursion that needs to be paid for

An unexpected dental bill

An emergency trip to the vet

The holiday you so desperately need

The list could go on….

As much as we try to plan there always seems to be something getting in the way…

Feeling like, no matter how much we try to do the right thing, nothing seems to change

What I’ve learned in these situations, is that I’m allowing my external environment to control how I think and feel (which is my internal environment)

This is a situation of cause and effect

I invite you to focus on changing your internal environment first (how you think and feel) and then see how your external environment changes

Move from being stuck in ’cause & effect’ to ‘causing an effect’

There may be a number of hurdles that you are trying to address in your journey to owning your own home:

  • saving a deposit
  • deciding where to live
  • choosing a floor plan

Become the observer of your situation

See yourself as the person who has overcome the particular hurdle or hurdles

What qualities do you possess?

What decisions or small steps have you made?

Identify the gaps between who you are today and who you need to become…

Focus on becoming that person….

Relax and lean into that journey…then watch with excitement as your dreams begin to unfold and ALL that you desire comes into being….

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Anthony Lolli – Author, Entrepreneur, Philanthropist and Real Estate Mogul

Whilst in New York (April 2017), I also had the privilege of meeting Anthony Lolli. He grew up in Brooklyn, NY and at the age of nineteen obtained his real estate license. By the age of 23, he was a millionaire.

Anthony built Rapid Realty NYC from scratch. He diverged from the Manhattan sales market and instead chose to focus on the apartment rentals of the outer boroughs. With his intimate knowledge of Brooklyn, he recognised that renters were a very under-served market.

With any property investment strategy, having detailed knowledge of the particular area being considered is imperative. The more knowledge, the greater the likelihood of being able to find deals that others will miss.

Anthony’s decision proved to be very fruitful and renters began flocking to Brooklyn in record numbers. He was able to grow Rapid Realty, his portfolio of investment properties and even open a real estate school.

The growth was such that Anthony was able to begin opening franchises. He became known nationally and internationally.

He has also published the book The Heart of the Deal: How to Invest and Negotiate like a Real Estate Mogul

Jason Flom – Millionaire music executive helping the wrongfully convicted

In April 2017, I was fortunate to be in New York and met Jason Flom. He shared some of his background in the music industry. He began his career with Atlantic Records and eventually became CEO. He moved from there to Virgin Records, then Capitol Music Group and is currently CEO of Lava Records, which he originally founded in 1995.

Along the way, he has discovered artists such as Lorde, Katy Perry, Thirty Seconds to Mars and Kid Rock.

For over 20 years, Jason has also been an advocate for first time offenders and the wrongfully convicted. He now has a regular podcast where he interviews those who have been exonerated, giving them an opportunity to discuss their stories in greater detail and to talk to experts about the science that has helped to free them.

Cherie Barber – Renovating for Profit

In November 2016, I was able to attend a 3 day Renovating for Profit workshop in Sydney, NSW run by none other than Cherie Barber – Australia’s renovation queen!!

Information covered topics such as:

  • determining what strategy was going to be the most effective
  • what changes could be completed as part of a cosmetic renovation that would not require council approval
  • what style of home was most suited to a cosmetic renovation
  • the time frames that should be allowed in which to undertake a cosmetic renovation
  • how to determine what purchase price should be offered in order to drive a good profit
  • tips on the most effective changes to make in order to gain the optimum return
  • tips on styling
  • an overview of building and planning regulations
  • how to drive a project plan
  • managing and mitigating risk on a project
  • the importance of mindset

Since undertaking this workshop, I have completed a successful renovation of an investment property in Pakenham, Vic and a number of other small projects.

John Travolta – Actor, Cinema Producer, Singer and Dancer

Not only is John Travolta a much loved actor, he is also an accomplished businessman. It was inspiring to hear of his interests and achievements beyond acting and film.

However, the most fun was being able to sing “You’re the One that I want” with John Travolta!! Thank you JT Foxx for allowing all of us this privilege at Family Reunion, November 2016

Johanna Mukoki – Group CEO “Travel with Flair”

Meeting with Johanna on the 18th November 2016 was an absolute delight. She is a Rhodes University graduate and co-founder of Travel with Flair. Along with her two business partners they began with only 3 employees. They now have over 800 and offices in Johannesburg, Pretoria, Durban and Cape Town.

She is the first person to sit on the Global Tourism Board representing the Middle East and Africa. She has been awarded the “Most Influential Woman in Business and Government in Tourism”, the “Ernst & Young Emerging World Entrepreneur of the Year” and in July 2014 was awarded a certificate for “Africa’s Most Influential Women in Business”.

Johanna spoke about being the best version of yourself and striving for excellence through a life well lived.