Finding HOPE in the midst of crisis…

The current crisis has shown us how much we live our lives by assumptions.

In the past, we would wake up in the morning and assume that life would be much as it was the day before.

We have assumed our good health, our daily interactions with loved ones, co-workers, friends and the business-as-usual routine in our job and community.

Our world of assumptions has been shattered and we are experiencing the death of everything we have known to be true.

In a moment, everything has changed.

All sorts of emotions have been experienced: numbness, disbelief, denial, outrage, confusion, emptiness, depression, guilt, fear, abandonment and isolation.

These emotions have been displayed through behaviours such as panic-buying and hoarding, physical altercations in supermarkets, the deliberate disregard for physical isolation guidelines and the running around trying to keep a business together.

We have all been affected in some way.

We are seeing loss of employment, loss of business, loss of dreams, loss of physical connection, loss of loved ones, loss of security and certainty.

Who do we become in the midst of our own uncertainty?

Do we withdraw and disconnect hoping it will all go away?

As a business leader or owner there is a very real risk that there will be nothing left when we finally do decide to emerge from the covers.

When we choose to accept that we don’t have to have all the answers that is when we can take action.

We are all experiencing loss at some level and are grieving that.

Having got over the initial shock, many will now start to feel anger and frustration as the reality of the situation sets in.

This is a natural part of the grief reaction and is partly as a result of feeling out of control.

We can choose to stay in that state and become disconnected from the very essence of who we are or we can tune into our thoughts and feelings.

Disciplines and practices can be implemented that will replace those thoughts and feelings with ones that will motivate us, give us hope and purpose.

Instead of asking “why did it happen?” we can ask “what do I do now?”, choosing to grow through the pain of our loss.

Grief is a natural, healthy, self-corrective process.

It is an ongoing, continuous, highly fluid process where we can separate from someone or something that we have lost.

Grief comes in waves and there will be different emotions felt as we move through the process.

Each of us respond differently to grief.

It varies according to our temperament, background, emotional and physical health, age, faith and past losses.

It is possible for a current loss to trigger unresolved losses from the past.

Intense grief may produce physical symptoms such as fatigue, shortness of breath, dizziness, irritability and restlessness, insomnia and inability to organise daily activities.

There may be feelings of self-blame, a preoccupation with the image of what has been lost – job, business or loved one, a sense of guilt arising from feelings of not having done enough to prevent the outcome.

No matter the emotion, it is healthier to express it than try and repress it.

Repression is the means by which intolerable memories are kept out of the consciousness.

The risk is that this will manifest physically as disease.

Expressing the emotion through crying is healthy – tears are a way of cleansing inner wounds.

As we grieve, we will review memories of what has been lost and only gradually confront each one with the realisation that it no longer corresponds to something real.

We need to face the pain so that it can heal.

As we move through this process, we will break the emotional ties with what has been lost and gradually reinvest attachment and emotional energy to a new reality.

Taking the time to reflect, put our priorities in their proper perspective and clarify our values, influences the way in which we move forward.

Giving ourselves space allows an occasion for growth, to connect with our higher self and chart a new course to even greater possibility than we ever dreamed possible.

Integrating new disciplines and practices into our daily routine supports that growth and invites greater creativity into our thoughts.

Then, when we pause to reflect, we can look back with gratitude, that what seemed to be a disaster has now become perfect and unique.


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Say “YES” to Opportunity…

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Saying ‘YES’ to opportunity started me on a journey of discovery – about myself and my purpose in life.

In late 2017, I was a co-author to the anthology “I said YES” where I shared the exhilaration of going against the expected norm and doing something for myself. How taking one step revived in me my desire to be a person of influence – someone who could share knowledge and experience.

Continuing to step into opportunity brings with it challenges.

Along side each period of growth, there has been also been pain.

As each door opened, to be that person to successfully step through, I realised there was a part of me that I needed to let go.

There were thought patterns that I had developed over many years that no longer served me.

They had come from belief systems that I had never questioned or observed as to what had created that belief system in the first place.

Integrating the practice of meditation into my life has been incredibly powerful.

It has given me the opportunity to see who I truly am.

Believe me though, it is not an easy upward trajectory.

Life still gets in the way and can side-swipe me.

The good thing is….I’m more in control.

I’ve come to understand the me that I no longer want to be and have the tools to change.

Practicing the daily renewal of my mind has become an imperative.

This process has also instilled in me courage, resilience and trust.

Trust, that we are all connected to a higher being and each have our own unique purpose.

It is this sense of connectedness which draws me forward, seeking to grow in awareness and understanding of the power that resides within each of us.

This power is like a muscle. It needs to be used consistently to strengthen.

As it strengthens, it replaces those thought patterns that were consistently sabotaging my efforts.

The most wonderful thing is that I get to be the designer of my destiny.

But it does take discipline.

For a long time my understanding of self-care centred around taking ‘time out’, having a massage, taking a walk or something similar.

More recently, I was challenged to consider self-care as also been a time to be focused, to exercise discipline in completing the one thing that was going to help me move forward in that moment.

I am grateful for that insight.

For in the discipline of work that is aligned to my purpose, I have found a freedom and a passion that continues to ignite that power within.

What would it mean for you today to say ‘YES’ to opportunity?

To be willing to be vulnerable, to discover more of your true self?

To be inspired to take up a new challenge, find new courage?

I would love to hear your thoughts…..

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